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The Surviving, Healing, and Evolving (SHE) Podcast is a sensitive, compassionate, and uplifting podcast for Black women and girls!  Childhood sexual abuse and sexual assault are dark topics, but this is an analytical and beautiful podcast  specifically focused on healing and uplift.  It is designed for Black women and girls who have suffered sexual trauma.  Also, episodes focus on trauma in the Black community as a whole.  Nothing can change the past, but we don’t have to hurt all the time! 

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Essays of Love, Compassion, Healing, and Affirmation for Black People


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“Paradise Lost”




          That is often the tragedy of early childhood sexual abuse.

It leaves a lot of talent by the wayside, while fueling many days of rage and tears. I lived half a life powered by a fourth of my brain capacity for much too long because the rest of my brain was often savagely commandeered by a ruthless tormenter who diverted my concentration to self-consciousness and self-righteousness, flanked by fear and stress. I was in a constant battle to put down an insurrection in my head while at the same time trying to live my life with dignity and self-respect

          How did it feel to operate in searing pain that lurked just seconds beneath the surface, threatening to leap out and cause me to dissolve into tears at any time? How did it feel to have a problem that could not be understood, let alone solved? My mind usually told me that I could not—whatever it was—I simply could not, and so, often, I did not because I never even tried. Yet, when I did, the output was usually genius. And that, again, is the fundamental tragedy of childhood sexual abuse; it can take away so much from the so-called “survivor.”

          It destroyed my ability to fully engage in important, meaningful relationships, to be present for people, to be present for myself. Essentially, it took away my ability to be fully human, able to access the vast world around me, to feel a range of emotions, to be an integrated whole being. It stole my spirit, making it hard to be centered and present in a room full of people. 

           Stress, aah, stress. It has been a constant in my life. It has been a part of me, as far back as I can remember, relentlessly compromising the brilliance I am capable of displaying, and doggedly supporting a perfectionism that I have found difficult to curtail and reign in. A perfectionism predicated on the idea that I had to be flawless to push back the belief that I had been sullied and made imperfect. A perfectionism that has caused me a great deal of anguish. A perfectionism that never had to exist in the first place…. 



Excerpted from:  Surviving, Healing, and Evolving: Essays of Love, Compassion, Healing, and Affirmation for Black People

 © 2015, Published in 2022. 




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Managing Feelings


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           If you were sexualized during early childhood, you will probably never quite get over someone invading your body and altering your sense of self. You will probably never get over someone stripping away your ability to govern and control your own body during your early formative years.

          Yet, you can learn how to manage that dark cloud that tries to fix over you from time to time. Learn the signs and symptoms. Learn what triggers that feeling of helplessness that sometimes engulfs you, that you sometimes wake up with. When you know that you are heading into an emotional storm, take cover. Do something. Whatever makes you feel better—a walk, a movie, a good book, getting out of the house, getting away from people who annoy you, spending time in a neutral place like the library reading magazines, lunch with a friend, dinner by yourself in a public place surrounded by people, do something.

           Then, too, accept that sometimes the thing that works is just a good cry.  There is science that says our tears have therapeutic properties, so don’t be afraid to cry. But get up the next day and look to a better day. Just stay in the game because there are no limits to your talents and what you have the ability to accomplish—and deep down inside you know that. There are plenty of people who finish the game strong, even while carrying something heavy. Michael Jordan had four fouls in a playoff game, but he did not foul out of the game. He just continued his run to a championship ring.

          Stay in the game. You deserve to win at whatever you decide to do. Remember that it doesn’t rain all the time. Make a very concerted effort to be happy, to look up, to keep going, no matter what.  (Copyrighted material)




Excerpted from: Surviving, Healing, and Evolving: Essays of Love, Compassion, Healing, and Affirmation for Black People.  Copyright, 2015; Published, 2022.   






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Surviving, Healing, and Evolving:

Essays of Love, Compassion, Healing 

and Affirmation for Black People

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           “Still Enchanted

After All These Years”

(Community Triumph and Trauma)



       “During the “Sinful, Ginful” 1920s, Al Capone’s “Tommy gun,” aka the “Chicago Typewriter,” was so devastating, with its automatic rapid-fire magazine, that it sparked the passage of the National Firearms Act of 1934 to get it off city streets. The long “Taxi War,” which was well underway in the 1920s, saw Yellow and Checker Cab company drivers brazenly sniping at each other in broad daylight on city streets with bewildered passengers inside…

       Today it is in vogue to talk about the impoverished Black gang members who menace Black communities. However, some of those gangs were rooted, early on, in the need to organize together, for one thing, to defend against malicious and incessant assaults that met them when they moved into previously all white communities, attended previously all white public schools or crossed certain streets that Whites established as racial dividing lines. The fact that Black communities are routinely disinvested in (and all the ramifications that flow from that, including poor educational systems and a lack of healthy outlets once they become predominantly Black) is a whole other book! 

       Part of the healing process for Black people is in knowing that we are not the authors of the city’s violence. We must also understand that horrific physical, psychological, legal, and policy-based violence has been enacted upon Black people. There is so much talent literally trapped in the Black community with no meaningful outlet because of racism, discrimination, and other inequities in this society; so, the level of frustration in the communities can reach very high, sometimes, toxic levels.

        Our task, as a people, is to resist internalizing all the horror we have experienced, and to which we have been exposed. Our challenge, in our understandable pain, is to, in the words of Jesse Jackson, “turn to each other and not on each other….”               


© 2015 (Published in 2022)



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The framework for the book, Surviving, Healing, and Evolving:  Essays of Love, Compassion, Healing, and Affirmation, is one of healing from both personal and collective community trauma. For example, collectively, the Black migrants from the Jim Crow South, during The Great Migration, suffered racial and migratory trauma, but they made a way out of no way just the same in the big city of Chicago. This reading will explore their bravery, talents, and tenacity, from creating “Black Metropolis,” a vibrant model community of cultural, economic, and social success. Learn things you NEVER knew about the Black Chicago that elected the first Black congressman, from the North,  the first Black woman to the Senate, and the only Black U.S. president.  Learn all of this through the prism of getting Harold Washington elected mayor—at long last—in one of  the most historically racist and segregated Northern cities in the nation. 

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               World-class author, Ralph Ellison, declared, “When I discover who I am, I will be free.”   Dr. Rhonda Sherrod—whose work focuses on healing in Black communities—created this podcast to present a more truthful, accurate, and comprehensive understanding of the brilliance Black people have displayed despite the traumatic and horrific obstacles to which we have been subjected.  The History and Healing podcast seeks to shed light on history in a way that highlights the fact that Black people should love themselves fiercely.  The History and Healing Podcast was created as part of Dr. Sherrod’s healing work. 


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